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READ: Elizabeth and Alice. | I loved Inside Vogue by Alexandra Shulman.

LOOK:  Season Two of Susie Orbach’s In Therapy. | Nuno Mendes’s salted cod with potatoes, garlic and comté. | A home for David Hockney. | Rainy Cafe.

THINK: “Quickly we changed the subject, because I was nineteen years older and, if we married, she would be a widow so long…” | “You actually don’t know when you will die. You don’t know when your future partner will die. You don’t know what sort of health you’re going to be in. Anything could happen at any minute.” | “Grief is an attack on life. It’s not a seducer. It’s an ambush or worse. It stands right out there and says: ‘The minute you try something, I’m waiting for you.’”  | Children don’t always live. |  “I rearranged my day-to-day life because I wanted to be an “art monster,” a basically self-explanatory term coined by Jenny Offill, but also because I wanted a serene home, reasonably clean, put to rights during the afternoon and enjoyed at night.” | “The nurse painted her skin with a yellow-brown antiseptic. Then the cutting began.” | A conversation about acne. | Pop culture can’t deal with black male sexuality. | “Truly endarkic people crave solitude and, perhaps less consciously, cataclysm, if only for the opportunity to prove their self-reliance…”

POST MORTEM: What it took. How a lifetime of compromises and concessions brought one woman to the brink of history. | “We owe it to them not to react hyper-emotionally, even while we make an effort not to under-react intellectually.” Talking to kids about Trump’s victory. | “Women with less economic or personal autonomy are often drawn to a culture of family values that emphasizes men’s responsibility to look after women… The flip side of women having all these freedoms from male control, they believe, is that it actually threatens women’s entitlement to male protection.” Why women voted for Trump, despite his misogyny. | “Much of the newly energized left has come to see the white working class not as allies but primarily as bigots, misogynists, racists, and homophobes, thereby condemning those often at the near-bottom rung of the economy to the bottom rung of the culture as well. A struggling white man in the heartland is now told to “check his privilege” by students at Ivy League colleges.[…] And so they wait, and they steam, and they lash out.” | Autocracy: rules for survival. “…in the face of the impulse to normalize, it is essential to maintain one’s capacity for shock. This will lead people to call you unreasonable and hysterical, and to accuse you of overreacting. It is no fun to be the only hysterical person in the room. Prepare yourself.” / “Cassandras” Jenna Wortham and Wesley Morris process a Trump presidency.