READ: Elizabeth and Alice. | I loved Inside Vogue by Alexandra Shulman.
LOOK: Season Two of Susie Orbach’s In Therapy. | Nuno Mendes’s salted cod with potatoes, garlic and comté. | A home for David Hockney. | Rainy Cafe.
THINK: “Quickly we changed the subject, because I was nineteen years older and, if we married, she would be a widow so long…” | “You actually don’t know when you will die. You don’t know when your future partner will die. You don’t know what sort of health you’re going to be in. Anything could happen at any minute.” | “Grief is an attack on life. It’s not a seducer. It’s an ambush or worse. It stands right out there and says: ‘The minute you try something, I’m waiting for you.’” | Children don’t always live. | “I rearranged my day-to-day life because I wanted to be an “art monster,” a basically self-explanatory term coined by Jenny Offill, but also because I wanted a serene home, reasonably clean, put to rights during the afternoon and enjoyed at night.” | “The nurse painted her skin with a yellow-brown antiseptic. Then the cutting began.” | A conversation about acne. | Pop culture can’t deal with black male sexuality. | “Truly endarkic people crave solitude and, perhaps less consciously, cataclysm, if only for the opportunity to prove their self-reliance…”
POST MORTEM: What it took. How a lifetime of compromises and concessions brought one woman to the brink of history. | “We owe it to them not to react hyper-emotionally, even while we make an effort not to under-react intellectually.” Talking to kids about Trump’s victory. | “Women with less economic or personal autonomy are often drawn to a culture of family values that emphasizes men’s responsibility to look after women… The flip side of women having all these freedoms from male control, they believe, is that it actually threatens women’s entitlement to male protection.” Why women voted for Trump, despite his misogyny. | “Much of the newly energized left has come to see the white working class not as allies but primarily as bigots, misogynists, racists, and homophobes, thereby condemning those often at the near-bottom rung of the economy to the bottom rung of the culture as well. A struggling white man in the heartland is now told to “check his privilege” by students at Ivy League colleges.[…] And so they wait, and they steam, and they lash out.” | Autocracy: rules for survival. “…in the face of the impulse to normalize, it is essential to maintain one’s capacity for shock. This will lead people to call you unreasonable and hysterical, and to accuse you of overreacting. It is no fun to be the only hysterical person in the room. Prepare yourself.” / “Cassandras” Jenna Wortham and Wesley Morris process a Trump presidency.
READ: Bad writer. | “Before you commit to writing as a career, make sure you’re not simply agoraphobic or depressed…” / “Everything seems as blunt and eccentric and knowing as an email written at white heat: a mode of address that assumes it’ll all be understood—and if not, then fuck you.” | “My least favorite received idea about writing is that one must find one’s voice, as if it’s there inside you, fully formed and ready to turn on like a player piano. A voice is what emerges from an informed intelligence as it reaches toward accurate perception.” / “… my envy focuses not necessarily on writers whose work I admire, but on those whose performance of the writer’s life I find convincing.” | “My mother was apparently cleaning one day, and she found the writing and wrote, “Very good,” and put it back.” | “I wanted to exercise a discipline that made demands of my body rather than my cortex.” | Cried. | The Mothers sounds exciting (“I don’t know what to do with good white people.”)
LOOK: Making Gay History podcast. | French spies! (Netflix in US, Amazon in UK). | Perfect Hillary poster. / Favourite US election podcasts. | I urgently require this incredibly expensive, beautiful water filter?
THINK: Housekeeping as an accomplishment and an act of love. | “What is always striking about the owners of taste is how aggressive they feel they have to be in proving they are right. It is a sadomasochistic contract: I know what is good, and therefore if you disagree you are clueless or worse.” | “In a sense, she is daring voters to study her positions, listen to her answers and not look to her for entertainment or emotional impact.” | It’s not in your head: new study links birth control to depression. | Feel it, show it, label it, watch it go.
READ: “What happens when a dancer is denied the ability to labor? How we endure this insult becomes all we have left of our beauty.” | My son, the prince of fashion. | Seeing stars by Alex Ronan. | The novelist disguised as a housewife. | Right before the H&M show, the woman dressing Nef had given her a long look and said, “Are you a model? You’re a little uglier and fatter than the other girls.” | Web Safe 2k16 and memories of the pre-broadband Internet. | The clean. | Was Ma a bitch?
LOOK: Still Processing. | British Vogue documentary / What I see in the mirror by Vogue editor Alexandra Schulman. | The perfect London house. | Meals that can cook unheeded throughout children’s bath and bedtime and emerge, perfect, in time for Bake Off: Cook Simple / Anna Jones’ traybakes. / Rachel Roddy’s vegetable bake. | Baked spinach rice. | I do sort of wish this was a blog rather than a cookbook but obviously my copy is ORDERED. | Staff meals. | #GRWM. | The first hundred Penguin books. | London’s female drag queens.
THINK: What ‘boyfriend’ clothes are really selling. | “I just really couldn’t deal with it. But when it was just a perfect little black horse, it was just everything I’d dreamed of.” | “The irony is that the middle-class focus on doing well as individuals helps to consolidate the success of the group as a whole, while the relative working-class emphasis on solidarity can serve to increase tension and frustration between individuals.” | “I tried Hillary Clinton’s diet and now I sympathize with her” <3 / “Anticipating a lot of attention, she instructed the team to be ready by the phones…”
I don’t know whether it’s summer or pregnancy but the only things I want to do are watch Great British Bake Off and read about Glossier. Tweet me any blogs you like that I might like?
READ: “… I am just a cleaner, a cook, a disgruntled odd-job man: My daughters create themselves.” | More Cusk: “… she perhaps views maternal ambivalence as a somewhat grotesque luxury.” | A short story by Curtis Sittenfeld. | “Here you are, in some sense, bearing the burden of her decision to remain anonymous. Are you tiring of being the “face of Ferrante”?” | Currently reading: The Pigeon Tunnel | Liked reading: Should you leave? | The Vegetarian.
LOOK: Beautiful Australia, beautiful Australian art on Instagram: @francesbgrant. | The London Review of Looks. | We got an ice cream maker?! Made Blackberry and fig leaf ice cream. | Jam cake recipe for any seasonal fruit. | Gardeners’ Question Time pilau. | For using up egg whites. | I Love Dick on Amazon (some misgivings).
THINK: A metric. | “Growing paranoid is easy when, because of your gender, people really are out to get you.” Fear of a female president. | “We’re the only plane in the sky.” | Scam today before today scams you.